Methods of love.


I took an online quiz.
What compelled me to do so?

A couple of days ago marked “two”.

Two years with someone who drives me crazy with emotion, who opens my eyes, who loves wholeheartedly and continues to tame the “practical” (and sometimes unreasonable) type of partner I am.

I wanted to understand why I struggle to completely free my mind of doubts, anger and impatience even though he is nothing but loving. The results don’t change much – I guess I’m still creating hoops for us to jump through to test compatibility – but they remind me of how lucky I am and that “two” is a milestone I should appreciate.

Thank you L 👨🏻‍🚀


Happiness requires struggle.

“At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. It’s negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with.

What we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

People want to start their own business or become financially independent. But you don’t end up a successful entrepreneur unless you find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, and working insane hours on something you have no idea whether will be successful or not.”

– excerpt from Mark Manson


(my coffee table to yours)


Adulthood is where dreams go to die.

I used to believe this, and I still do. But I now also think that if we don’t let life rip from our manicured little fingers what we think defines us—and defines success—we’ll never be forced to unlearn, relearn, love bigger, and go farther.

It’s been said that you can’t have it all, but I call bulls— on that. We can have it all. Just not all at the same time.

Sophia Amoruso

A Letter to My Thirty Something Self

Dear thirty year old self,

I have no idea where you may be in life at this moment – both geologically and career wise – but I know you have found success by your own definition.

There may or may not be a man in your life but I know you aren’t bothered because you have your family, friends and weird self to keep you company.

Remember to treasure the people that genuinely care about you by asking how they are, calling them often and showing them you appreciate them. Never feel bad for saying ‘no’ more often – your time is yours to spend.

If you do have a partner, don’t take him for granted and do not forget to tell him that you love him even if it makes you uncomfortable (they need the reassurance from time to time and so do you, even if you are stubbornly going to deny it).

If there isn’t something special baking in the oven, you’re not obliged to satisfy your biological clock. Go at your own pace, things only get better with a little more time, *insert pop of wine bottle cork*.

With age comes experience and that is the source of wisdom, so embrace the growth and don’t forget to apply sunscreen!

There will be times when you feel completely lost, hate the world and want to escape under your covers and never come out but know that it can only get better if you try. You aren’t meant to have all the answers in life. No matter what you have encountered, I hope you continue to keep your head high and finally build something that gives back to the community in a big way.

Please always remember:

“It is what you can summon up from within that will distinguish you” – Vera Wang

Love always,


PS – I hope you’ve learned how to properly cook a dish at this point in life. xo